Are you wondering what to say to girls in order for them to like you?
Don’t worry, I was there before.
I used to be totally tongue tied and had no idea how to come across when I met girls or women I was attracted to. So don’t worry, I know exactly how you’re feeling. In fact, I remember one time I was so lame I actually started to talking about pubic hair in the men’s urinal because I had nothing else to talk about.
Yup, you might be thinking I was totally retarded. Yes, I agree with you. But you know what? I’m sure there are other guys out there who have done this mistake as well. So I’m making sure you don’t do the same things I did and you don’t learn the hard way, because that really sucks.
Now you might be thinking, according to popular TV shows and Hollywood movies, I need to talk about something amazing on the first date to get her attention.
Well, the good news is, that’s all bullshit.
You don’t need to talk about anything that’s too detailed or complicated.
To explain my point, let’s look at this example.
If a group of friends get together it’s very easy to talk, it doesn’t take a lot of energy or concentration. The conversation just flows naturally.
Or think about life in general. When you are around people who have something in common with you, it’s easy to talk and laugh.
No one has to feel strange or awkward and come up with “conversation material”.
No one has to wonder what to talk about next.
It all just flows naturally.
Sure that sounds easy, because you’re not trying to attract your friends romantically.
So how do you chat to girls who you like?
If you were like me, you’d end up asking her questions of fact and gather information about a particular topic.
That’s logical and that’s how men think.
But that’s not how you should talk to girls.
The problem then becomes the fact that men like to ask about practical things, and women feel happier talking about feelings and emotions.
So you can see where the misunderstandings might begin to happen.
We are not saying that women aren’t logical and linear, but when you are getting to know her (and trying to get her to like you), you have to set yourself apart from all the rest. Don’t try to learn her c.v off by heart, or be a policeman gathering evidence. Be an interested human being who wants to get to know her as a person.
Let me repeat.
Do not let the conversation end up like you’re doing an interrogation or conducting an interview.
Be REAL and ask more interesting questions.
Here are some general pointers to keep in mind:
- Don’t ask her practical questions, or anything that just requires a ‘yes/no’ answer.
- If it involves her thinking with logic, it’s probably the wrong question.
- Keep the questions light, imaginative and emotionally based and you will both enjoy yourselves, as well as be able to communicate easily.
- Make it about something she cares about (such as her favourite past time or hobby)! Give her a chance to express herself, she will really appreciate it.
- It is all about what she feels, and about someone taking the time to listen to her.
Here are some things you should avoid at all costs:
- Do not talk about negatives involving your family, work or money problems.
- If you’re feeling depressed and sad, don’t get into a heart to heart with her in case you put her off. It is better if she sees you as upbeat and exciting while you are establishing your relationship.
- Don’t try to analyse her, or complain about your previous relationships.
- Avoid politics, religion and conspiracy theories at all costs.
Let me repeat this.
Women get bored with facts and enjoy talking about situations that involve intuition, discussion and emotion.
So make sure when you talk to her, keep it FUN and relaxed!
Don’t ask anything too personal or sensitive at first.
In time if she likes you, she’ll begin to naturally WANT to tell you these things when you didn’t ask.
If that happens, then you know you’re on the right track and that she REALLY likes you, otherwise she’s not going to share that kind of information with just anyone.
So you’ll know without needing to ask the needy question “so do you like me” whether or not she likes you because you’d be able to tell by the way to talks to you.
All you need to do is LISTEN to her after you ask her emotionally engaging questions, after that, instead of worrying about “what to say next” things will just flow naturally.
And that’s how it should be.
